How to increase your chances of getting a date by 250x
OK, this sounds like click-bait, but this was so very true for me….with a twist….a big one.
I’ve read so many posts/blogs on dating advice, I figured I would chime in here and add my two cents based on my experience going trans: Male to Female.
I’ve seen both sides (being a straight guy dating girls and now a trans woman dating men). The first thing I noticed when going trans is that it was literally 250x easier for me to find dates. (This is Empirical data, not theoretical!). Why? And it’s not because I feel like I was always a woman:
- I wasn’t looking for romance, I wanted to first have fun.
- I could act exactly how I wanted to (which men largely can’t do). I wasn’t trying to be somebody or do something that other people told me I should do in order to get dates.
- I enjoy getting dressed up when I’m a woman. I love women and I love the variety in their clothes. As a man I had no interest in being flashy, it didn’t feel genuine. When I’m a woman, I’m doing it to have fun. I have ZERO interest in men’s clothes, a man getting all dressed up flashy, to me when I was a man, was way too “gay” for me (ironically!).
- And finally because I enjoy it a lot more. It’s better than being invisible (as a guy)…it was kind of like becoming Batman/Batgirl. When I was a man, I was invisible because I had this crazy idea that people would appreciate me for who I was on the inside. (Well that’s not the way the world works).
What do I conclude from own experiences?
People will mostly only date people they are already physically attracted to. Nothing else about your behavior is going to change that. For the most part…there are exceptions to every rule. If you are interesting, nice etc that is secondary and might make the relationship last. (And not all people even want that, despite what they say — often they are just looking for some fun action, and often like “challenging” relationships full of drama…I guess it adds to the “scene” they’re looking for)
Secondly, my original approach to romance first and then sex/fun was a huge failure. That’s not the modern way. Flipping the order to first flirting, then sex, then fuck buddy, and lastly romance if it all works out, is more consistent with modern culture.
Personally I wish none of this was true, but I don’t make up the rules. I go with what works. And why is this important? Well we almost all want to have fun, and feel good about ourselves — sexy. That’s what you need to be a high functioning individual. Dating is supposed to be fun, not frustrating agony!!! Life is hard enough, where else do you get relief!?
And this applies to men, women, trans, pansexual, non-binary, etc.
So all that dating advice….if you want to enjoy life, drop most of it. Have fun and do what you want to do, be who you are. Right now! I know easier said than done, but a simple rule to follow is: if it feels good and you get good results, go with it, otherwise drop it. Don’t try to figure out why.
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