I feel you (I used to be a straight guy). The problem is that most women want to date men who have hair — despite what they say. Look at their behavior, not what they say. That gets less important as we get older, but is still present.

Given that you can really change the situation (as you indicated), yup, don’t bother, don’t think about it, do what makes you feel good, and fuck everybody else. Like you said, self confidence is most important. Think of it as a life lesson.

When I went through it at first I felt resentful of so many other guys who didn’t have to deal with this problem. But then I reminded myself that I have so many other assets like intelligence, musical skills, technical skills, charisma, that it wouldn’t be reasonable to expect I would be blessed with everything. I found over time that my personality more than compensated for my lack of hair, and also a weird chin caused by a birth defect. I think these two things gave me a stronger personality.

Yes it’s true that I would have had more dating opportunities if I didn’t have the hair problem, but would I rather just be a good looking simpleton who was getting lots of women…not really. I rather take charge in life, and fuck the dating scene, what happens will happen. I’m sick of all that pop culture dating bullshit.

I hope you’re proud for writing about this, you should be.