I identify as an autogynephelic transsexual. This describes me pretty well. I liked being a man and lived as both for a whole. But I got so frustrated with the straight dating scene and being invisible as a man, I became a woman because it’s a lot more fun, I feel sexy, I have more power, and it’s apparently my only way to have access to the feminine (both access to women and to be liked for my feminine side). When I heard about the autogynephilic theory 10 years ago, I thought, wow, I’m not alone, that explains me!

I used to live in San Francisco (now in NYC), and I’ve met a ton of people in that community and a ton of visitors. I lived a block from Divas, the famous TS bar (now closed) and hosted many dozens of trans parties and events. I’m also an entertainer (pianist, guitarist, singer, host events). I also did many events at the Headquarters of kink.com (the SF Armory). So I’ve seen it all. I’ve also attended many trans events across the country, and several at Burning Man (where I stayed at a trans camp)

I discovered that I’m very much in the minority as far as trans women go. But I’m not the only one, I’ve met several other trans woman like me. But we are in minority. And some would argue that we make other trans women look bad if people get the impression that most trans women are like us. And some people do think that. That’s certainly not my intention…not even close. But I’m proud of who I am, and I like to express that because not only are there trans women out there like me, many men relate to this. To me, it’s an expression of what is wrong with how our world defines and controls what it means to be male.

I wish there was a good way for people to see the variations of trans…but it’s hard in our social media world. (I wrote and published a book about it. )


Now regarding Blanchard, his methods and the way he expresses his research (eg is he claiming this applies to some trans women vs most/all), I can’t comment on that…I have no idea, I never spent much time looking at him.

Regarding the impact it has on trans women in general, I can see that I can be insulting and damaging. There isn’t much I can do about that except what im already doing. The book, speaking about it publicly, and now working on a show about trans in NYC.

I have a great deal of respect for my trans sisters, and I want to support all the variations as best as I can. I hope my sisters understand my perspective. This has been a very tough journey for all of us.