I think that’s true but good looks is probably 85% of it for a whole lot of people. Of course they’re not aware of it, they don’t think that that’s what they’re doing, but if you see their behavior, that is what they are in fact doing.

They don’t even consider somebody who’s not really good looking, that’s why they agonizing over relationships because they have limited their selection to people who look a certain way.. And they will ignore everything else to twist reality - they believe this person is not an asshole, or otherwise unsuited . I’m done with listening to people like that.