I understand, but what about the people who are autogynephilic? Trans haters are going to come up with any reason to feel like a hero and hate us. Are we supposed to use a different word, and if so, what word should we use?

Yes Blanchard was off the rails in claiming that ALL trans women are like this. Nobody should be claiming that ALL people are a certain way. But he added value by describing a phenomenon that once described has helped a lot of people, including myself. There are many things in life that are complex and have controversy.