I’ve seen both sides (straight guy dating girls and now a trans woman dating men). First thing i noticed when going trans is that it was literally 250x easier for me to find dates (this is Empirical data!). Firstly because I wasn’t looking for romance, I wanted to first have fun. Secondly, i could act exactly how I wanted to. I wasn’t trying to be something or do something that other people told me I should do in order to get dates. Thirdly because I enjoyed getting dressed up..I love women…as a man I had no interest in being flashy, it didn’t feel genuine (when I’m a woman, I’m doing it to have fun). And finally because I enjoyed it a lot more (better than being invisible…it was kind of like becoming Batman/Batgirl).

What do I conclude from own experiences?

People will mostly only date people they are already physically attracted to. Nothing else about your behavior is going to change that. For the most part…there are exceptions to every rule. If you are interesting, nice etc that is secondary and might make the relationship last. (Not all people want that, despite what they say)

Secondly, my original approach to romance first and then sex/fun was a huge failure. That’s not the modern way. Flip the order to flirting, sex, fuck buddy, and lastly romance if it all works out, is more consistent with modern culture.

Personally I wish none of this was true, but i don’t make up the rules. I go with what works.


And this applies to men, women, trans, pansexual, non-binary, etc.m