Most people have no idea what love, a real connection, and authenticity are as they have been brainwashed since they were kids to worship image and consumerism, especially girls who are attacked by the corporate advertising machine starting at 5 years old so they can start getting used to thinking they’re not good or pretty enough without buying beauty products. And it’s then natural for them to want a good looking/trendy guy, with only a fantasy about who he really is. Anybody authentic goes into the friends zone. And men do the same with women, but they’re different — they’ve been turned into socially idiot savants with their sports and misogynist attitudes (I know, I used to be one until I could no longer tolerate the programmed male/female American relationships. I lived overseas when I was a kid)

I have the good fortune to be an entertainer in San Francisco and am constantly witness to thousands of people who love seeing something different and are always complaining how shallow the mainstream world is. They constantly complain about it, but can’t break free, and worse yet perpetuate it.

Connection online is not real. Profiles are not real, they are misleading and exaggerated at best. No algorithm in the world can compensate for the facade, exaggeration and outright lying that occurs online. People sometimes find a connection online largely because of the sheer volume, eventually you’ll get lucky. About the only thing truthful online in non-professional relationships is your physical location.

Meeting in person is so much better but the promise and fantasy of the online experience has largely killed that. I Meet a lot of people in person because I’m already established in SF. I hate to think of how hard it is now for people just moving to the city.

The really sad thing is these online platforms are walking away with $, controlling who gets to interacts, all while making so many people miserable and feeling like helpless victims.