The main reason why women have problem with dating apps is because so many are only interested in guys who are really good looking, tall, etc. Not only are they limiting their choice by 90%, the 10% they go after can act anyway they want (like assholes) because they have a lot of choices.

Of course most women will not admit this to even themselves. They will chose only the best looking guys (over 6 feet, etc) and then twist their perception of reality to make it conform with their belief that this isn’t why they are making that choice. And to make matters worse, they think all men are terrible at dating, when in reality it is their choices. And they will NEVER see reality. I have had so many women complain to me about men (I know men very well), and it’s almost always the same story. It’s impossible to help them, they absolutely refuse to give up on focusing on good looking or 6 feet tall, etc guys.

Everything else is secondary or tertiary. Your claim about jumping through hoops is an interesting concept, but it’s secondary or tertiary.