There are so many posts about how to find a woman and they all miss the most important points that are most important to the average decent person man who is not a self centered, clueless asshole.

In the vast majority of cases, when somebody first meets you, they decide in a fraction of a second based on your looks and demeanor if they are going to date you. And most won’t by sheer probability (unless you’re really good looking and /or have a dynamic “hip” personality). And there is largely nothing you can do about that, short of being a disingenuous fake person to try to be more attractive. Which many people do…and people wonder why dating is such crap.