Whenever I see a post about this topic, it’s very rare you see a woman acknowledge the man’s point of view or have any compassion for men, whatsoever. Just look at the responses from the women. (The only time I’ve seen it is in the rare case that a woman brings up the topic about men’s point of view with their own post, and usually they are a professional, like a matchmaker or therapist)

When I went M2F trans I had many conversations with women about the struggles I had mainly due to the frustration of living as a man - being invisible, being judged constantly for showing emotion, etc. And I discussed a lot about what I learned about women, but after hundreds and hundreds (maybe thousands) of conversations about this (I’m an entertainer, host, producer, interviewer in SF and now NYC), not a single one expressed any interest or compassion for me as a man. Not one in 15 years. Including my own therapist.

I ultimately had no choice but to conclude that this was never going to happen. Women will never (with few exceptions) try to understand men and thus never will. I found many men interested in knowing what I learned about women, but not the other way around. I wrote a book about going trans and included things I learned about men from a women’s perspective and I discovered that women are interested in only the negative points.

I can only guess why this is the case, because when I bring up this point to women, they fight me on it, claiming it’s not true and then start gaslighting me. (Probably because I hit a nerve) Maybe it’s because men have abused women for so long (which is definitely true), they don’t want to hear about men’s problems. Maybe because they figure men have it a lot easier (which is definitely true). Maybe it’s because twisted fucked up cultural norms dictate that men deserve no compassion.

This was one of the most surprising aspects of going trans. And it led me to conclude that i never want to me a man again after experiencing the joy of being a woman and seeing the emotional abuse that men have to put up with (as well as the abuse that men dish to women). And I know a lot of trans woman who feel the same.

This whole us vs them situation is pathetic. And you have to wonder what’s really causing it.