Yes totally agree!… I’ve had many guys fearfully ask me something like “I only date women, and only hook up with men rarely. Am I gay?!”

I respond, “you’re a guy who only dates women, and only hooks up with men rarely”.

They respond, “but am I gay?”

I respond, “I don’t know. Some would say yes, some would say no. Depends on what you mean by gay. Do you want to spend more time with men, are you afraid or don’t have the opportunity?”